The Fear of Moving House

The Fear of Moving House

Huge changes at the best of times can be immensely daunting, the fear of moving house is definitely up there! Recently we were given 42 days notice to move house. The usual is 90 days unless the landlord states he requires his house for family, hence the 42 days.

shifting house

shifting house

Whilst it is initially a shock and then a load of stress, if you can sit quietly and focus for a moment, you can make the shock subside and then put together a logical plan eliminating most of the fear and creating a step by step guide to finding a suitable new home whilst embracing the change with excitement. I totally freaked out at first as I also have to get specialists in to dismantle Brennagh’s bed and reassemble it at the new place and these people need plenty of notice and it helps to have a forwarding address.

Usually when big stuff happens in your life you are on a precipice, and it can go either way, good or bad depending on how you look at things. As a rule most people don’t like change. They see themselves happy and settled as things are. They can’t see the opportunities that await around the corner as they are so gripped with the fear of the unknown. But if you can sit for a moment and think of the impending change as a way towards something bigger and better, you are part way to calming your fears.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life

Today is the first day of the rest of your life 1 photo by kennejima

Realize the fears are natural to being human and move on because whether you like it or not, the change is coming.

Embracing it makes everything seem so much easier. To feel the feel is to open yourself up to helplessness and hopelessness and deep down none of us are hopeless. Hopelessness is an emotion that we can choose to feel.

You can have moments of hopelessness and you can also pass through them quickly. You must realize that you are captaining your own ship and none of us want to end up on the rocks so you best plot a course that provides a desirable outcome. And like most ships you are carrying a load of passengers that are relying on you to make the best decisions for a safe and smooth trip to arrive at your final destination.

responsibility

I currently have less than 22 days to find the perfect home. After I sailed into calmer waters I was able to break my journey down. All I have to focus on at this current time is to find the house. The shift itself is not a big deal as we have volunteers to help with that. That is usually the second biggest thing in a shift. Moving the years of stuff. I have however been clearing out the years of clutter in between the viewings of properties. Amazing how much one accumulates with a large family. the years of memories, the years of junk! My answer is to give it all away. We don’t need a lot of stuff! And that’s all it is at the end of the day, STUFF!

I have loved our views

I have loved our views

I have enjoyed my time at this property. We have had some of the best views here. Views over the township, views over the country. They’ve been my sane places on many a crazy day. I have however been a little disappointed with the interior and now see moving as the perfect opportunity to change all that.  The change is almost like a rebirth……I like how that sounds.

Fantail

Fantail

Like with all major changes in life there can be a silver lining and if we can grasp that concept before we see the silver lining we’re halfway to a positive change. We’ve all experienced hindsight in our lives and often change has a positive outcome in the end.

So watch this space as I steam forward to more conducive waters.

I’d also like to add at this time that when things are so uncertain for some I am so fortunate to be able to run an online business and work the hours that suit myself, my family life and the roller coaster ride that goes with all of it! I have the freedom of not checking in with a boss, not having to ask for time off to view houses or shift stuff. I really am fortunate and grateful that I really do captain my own ship.

Thank you.

Kathleen McKay

 

 

Happy New You!

Happy New You!

Well as we’re almost a fortnight into the New Year many of us have had plenty of time to create new habits and continue to make changes to our lifestyle. Some of us would have made New Year’s resolutions and set ourselves up to fail.

simply enjoying the view

simply enjoying the view

It’s not easy to set a resolution without a well thought out plan. If you don’t have a plan that is when you likely to set yourself up for failure. Which in turn makes you feel bad and you usually spiral further into the bad behaviour.

If you’ve managed to stick to your resolutions or followed through with your plans you should be feeling pretty good about yourself now.

I laid a path towards a healthier and fitter me by quitting smoking in August last year. Then I added walking to my program. Not long after that I started to look at my nutrition as I had a really sweet tooth and a love for junk and fast food which in turn had a love of my hips and ass! I don’t think there were a pair of jeans in the house that fitted me and once again I had started to wear trackies and dresses so I didn’t notice how uncomfortable it was to wear jeans.

However it’s only been a matter of two weeks and I’m noticing a difference already. For one thing I feel better, I’m drinking way more water than I ever did which is making my skin look healthier and hydrated. I’m sleeping better, my moods are constant, so all in all I’m pretty happy with my progress to date.

Protein Shake

Protein Shake

I’ve got a decent schedule set up so I get to do the things I’d like to do. As a busy mum I’ve always put everyone first but that hasn’t always turned out so well for me. I’d be tired moody and of course resentful of everyone. Now that’s all changed as I feel like I’m taking are of myself too now.

So with that said, here’s all the best for the next two weeks making it one month!

Kind Regards

Kathleen McKay

It’s never too late to gym it!

It’s never too late to gym it!

It’s never too late to gym it! Man I hadn’t been to a gym since the late 80′s. I saw things in this gym that were amazing! Kettle bells, weight training machines, automated gym instructors and  I had three today! I haven’t worked my hips, butt and thighs like that in ages an it was awesome…..after the burn went away!

It was only 3 and a half hours ago I worked out and already I’m walking funny! I really felt the burn, got a little wobbly and unco at times but all and all it was awesome and I didn’t quit! Each time I thought I’d had enough I’d think of the sight my butt in the mirror!!

Watching what I eat and drink

I went to eat spicy sausage today and halted myself. Ended up eating almonds, cashews and cranberries. They were rather nice and fulfilling. I also tried a “green” juice. A little ambitious now in hindsight! It tasted bloody awful and I won’t be using that recipe again. However it did look rather attraction and for a moment my eyes had fooled my brain and I was expecting to taste lime. That was a big NO though :)

Greens Juice

Greens Juice

Anyway, I have put on significant weight since I quit smoking in August. At my peak, 20 days ago, I weighed in at 80.2 kg. Today I weighed in at 75.5 kg. I’m not too concerned about the scales. I’m more concerned about how my clothes fit me…or rather how they DON’T fit more to the point! I’m also 5 weeks in on having daily protein shake. Now maybe that nutritional value can be put to use building muscle.

Today I’ve been walking for 5 weeks and 4 days but it really hasn’t seemed to have made a difference to how my clothes fit. Although I must admit I’ve only been serious about the walking for a little over a week. Up until that point I was getting distracted by my views, other people, the smells, the river, oh and then there was all the trees I felt the need to climb on my way.

Me up a tree

Me up a tree

Anyway today was my day 1 in the gym, I know I’ll be going back for more of that. It has been years but muscles have memories too so hopefully mine remember I used to be a lot fitter and stronger than I am at this present moment. As I look at the list of all the things I achieved today I can sit here in silent reflection feeling absolutely grateful so much was done and I’m lucky enough to have the opportunity to do all the things I do in a day.

Once again I was inspired to get off my butt by some of the lovely members I mix with on a daily basis. If you would like to check out where our journey began, click the link below.

Free Bootcamp

So why wait, with the new year having just passed now is a good time to make some changes. My biggest fear was having another year pass me by and nothing changing in my life.

Kind Regards

Kathleen McKay

Will you be retiring this year?

Will you be retiring this year?

Will you be retiring this year? Are you in a job that requires you to retire at a certain age? If like me you’ve moved through your life without giving it much thought I honestly don’t blame you. If you feel  your way though life, it’s easy to feel like you’re the same person except your body keeps changing. Everyday I look in the mirror and I wonder where the years have gone, yet I’m not sure how to feel my age.

Kathleen McKay - Retiring??

Kathleen McKay – Retiring??

You’re not in the same body you were last year…..you’re not in the body you were 10 years ago. Some of you may still feel the way you did when you were in your twenties. It’s pretty hard to say how you’ll feel in your 60′s until you suddenly hit an age like 50 and then you realize you don’t feel any different than you did back whenever!!

Even now I can’t ever imagine I would want to retire. Retire from what anyway? I don’t work a 9-5. And even when I did I didn’t ever think it was for me. In fact I have never ever had any idea what I wanted to do or by in life except anything and everything I’ve ever wanted to be and do.

Me up a tree

Me up a tree

Clearly until recently I had been listening to the wrong people. I had always felt like a naughty child when I was little, then I was the rebellious teenager. In my twenties I was copying anything and everything I thought I was meant to be by doing what my teachers and caregivers had done in their lives. That didn’t quite feel right either.

Everything I ever did just didn’t quite feel right and now I’m expected to think about retiring?? Blimin heck I  feel like I’ve haven’t even lived yet and I’m only 50!!

Chilling

Chilling

I think back now to when I was younger and how I had it in my mind what “OLD” was and I’m shocked to say at 15 I thought a 40 year old was old.

But now I’m in my 50′s I want to go back and shake that 15 year old me.

As I drove along the street the other day my son and I passed an older gentleman. We saw him take a seat on the park bench and my son made an offhand comment about the “old man” that I quickly burst out in the old man defense.  I said to my son did he realize that how he “feels” right now and how he “sees” himself in the now, will be the same in 5 years, 10 years 50 years time. The only thing that changes is your body. As for your mind or ideas, I believe everything expands if you’re open to change.

Now that I’m in my 50′s I’m really hoping I’ll live until I’m at least 200!! There is so much I want to learn and achieve in my life yet. There is so many conversations I’m yet to have with so many people I’m yet to meet.

They say time is on my side….and I’m a believer!

I wasn’t always. Until a couple of years ago I was living with blinders on waiting to die! Not in a million years did I ever believe I had choices. Nor did I believe I could change the course my life had been taking for years, too many to look back on. However hope was given to me after I saw a video of my now mentor Stuart Ross. He spoke of a life that I could have, that I owed to myself…..

 

At the very least he got me thinking….about a lot of things. When I was thinking of death, Stuart was offering me life….I look back now I can’t even see a smidgen of the woman I was back them. Heck I’m not even looking to retirement! Heck I’ll be the rebellious leader of the grey brigade! Stubbornly refusing to retire on a pittance of a retirement pension! Refusing to accept any limitations just because I’m aging. And YOU SHOULDN’T ACCEPT IT EITHER!!!

Take a listen to this short video and make up your own mind.

And Remember, you really are only as old as you feel!

Kathleen McKay

 

 

 

 

 

Ringing in the New Year!

Ringing in the New Year!

How are you ringing in the New Year? This year I am having a quiet one at home. I’m happy to watch a movie and maybe have a few nibbles and drinks with some of my family.

One of my son’s has gone away to a concert with friends, another is having a couple of drinks with a friend in my husbands mancave and my hubby is out having a couple at the local.

Many of you will be making new years resolutions and breaking them before the first week is out. :) I’ve never been good at making New Years Resolutions simply because I do break them, usually within 24 hours.

So before the New Year was even close I started to create new habits that most people would start on New Year’s Day ensuring my best chance of sticking to a resolution which up until this point I’m 5 weeks in and not looking to let up anytime soon.

So while everyone else is reveling in the festivities tonight I have cooked a lovely meal for my family and I’m having a quiet night watching the Edinburgh Tattoo for the first time ever and I’m really enjoying the talent from all over the world..

So as I see out the last of this past year and reflect upon the highs and the lows, I have to say I’m very thankful it’s been a pretty good year with more highs than lows. I’ve learnt alot and made many friends. My family has stayed reasonably healthy, happy and safe. We’ve fared better than many others in the world.

Gift of Giving

And as I reflect upon the past world events for the year, I hope and I pray for a better year for all whom inhabit this wonderful planet of ours, I hope for the well being of all mankind and as I close out another year, it is my hope that man will be a little kinder and a little more generous to his fellow man, to treat his neighbour as he would wish to be treated himself and maybe….just maybe this world will be a little bit better than it has been in recent times.

Kindness to All

Kathleen McKay

Sunny Kiwi Summers

Sunny Kiwi Summers

There’s something special about sunny kiwi summers. barbeques, swimming in rivers and the sea, eating ice creams, drinking way too much beer and of course backyard cricket!

Backyard Cricket

Backyard Cricket

I look forward to summer every year. It seems like it takes longer and longer to arrive but it’s most likely my imagination playing tricks on me. It feel like the winter drags on and we get little teases of summer days when we may have one stunningly gorgeous day and then we have a week of awful weather.

Stormy Point Lookout

Stormy Point Lookout

Where ever we have lived in New Zealand especially on the west coast we seem to  have attracted a huge amount of wind. Crazy winds that make u want to pack up and leave. But New Zealand is such a beautiful place. And when summer is here there is no place I would rather be. We dragged out the old barbecue for a good beating and also park the swimming pool somewhere in the yard. This year we have it over looking the back paddocks of the neighbour’s farmlet. We have the good fortune to live in the town and country at the same time.

Summertime

Summertime

We have an amazing collection of people, many from all around the world. A regular melting pot of different cultures. I love it. We’re so blessed in our country, New Zealand. You can head in any direction from where you are and you should hit a coastlinte within a couple of hours.

We have beautiful lands, beautiful rivers, beautiful beaches and beautiful people. We live in a land where you can relax, you’re a lot safer here than in many other places in the world. Most of us have roofs over our heads and we have power and good clean drinking water, for the most part.

So I for one am thankful summer is here and we get to have a carefree time filled with family, friends and those friends we’re yet to meet.

Kathleen McKay

There

It was the night before Christmas…

 It was the night before Christmas…

It was the night before Christmas and all was so calm, the day has gone by and not a thing was went awry.. I hadn’t even started my christmas shopping until last night and then I only managed to buy chippies and fizzy drinks!

Was I angry or upset at myself? No. Everything would work out. It had done for the past 30 odd years. It was hardly going to come to a sudden mishap now.

I started my day as usual. I slipped out for my morning walk before even taking a look at shopping. Once I’d had my walk and my protein shake , got a few of the regular household and 5 kid-stuff sorted I decided to brave one of the stores.

 

Out Walking

Out Walking

I wasn’t in there 5 minutes and I had promptly purchased myself two new tops. Well that was an epic selfy moment and I was pretty pleased with myself. Especially when I was reminded of certain misdeeds my kids had pulled in the last couple of month. Oh well I’ll try again in a little bit.

Farmer's Market

Farmer’s Market

Well my next attempt at shopping didn’t go as planned either! I ended up in Murray’s Irish Bar after taking a tour in Manchester Square at the Farmer’s Market. But to be fair I didn’t touch a dropped of alcohol. I ordered a 6 shot latte with 6 sugars. Sounds a lot of sugar but it isn’t. Not sure what the measure is in a little packet of sugar but it isn’t a teaspoon.

One christmas way back in the old days may or may not have been ruined due to me drinking on christmas eve :) Ruined I mean for me, not anyone else. No fun doing christmas day hungover with excited and hungry kids!

Third attempt went much better. That was around 2.30pm ish. Once I’d made my mind up I was all sorted by 3.30. Managed another couple of 6 shots back at Murrays, as I planned what needed to be prepped for christmas day when I got back home.

That’s pretty much sorted too. Lamb is cooked, chickens are stuffed and roasting away in the oven. I’m even contemplating glazing my first ham and if that happens I’ll make sure I take pics for proof as it may never happen again. Potatoes have been prepped for the potato salad and I can’t wait to harvest my own lettuces for the greens salad. So excited things are coming together nicely.

The tree was finally set up a few days ago and that too wasn’t a big stressful deal. This has been the first year we’ve been able to cruise through like this. I honestly put it down mindset. I know we throw that word mindset around alot but when your mind is made up how it’s going to feel, it’s set so to speak.

In the past my mind was always reacting to events and incidents going on around me. And because everything is changing moment by moment, if I wasn’t in control then I was always in reactive mode. This can lead to a person feeling victimized by their circumstances. And we all know what happens when momentum is added to the equation. You’re either in for a mega awesome time, or you’re in for a mega-shit time.  It all depends on your frame of mind. It becomes easier to get your head around when you realize everything is one of two feelings.

That which feels good to you and that which doesn’t feel good to you. And the beauty is you get to decide! So after an extremely intense year of learning in a different way to create the change in myself I was seeking, by surrounding myself with people I admire and aspire to be like, then adapting what I’ve learnt by injecting my own unique style to pass on everything I learn to others. And the number one thing I learnt was,  ’nothing was more important than love and kindness’.

Everything becomes easier when you come from these two places, love and kindness. You really can’t get anything wrong. So this is how I ambled my way through another amazing day, not only completing challenges I have set for myself but also doing the most important family things and everything is flowing harmoniously.  I’ve still got prezzies to wrap that I’ve hidden all over the property! You have to get pretty cunning at hiding stuff when you have teens in the house.

Tonight was pizza night so yayyy no dishes and now I’m just relaxing having a cup of green tea and waiting to finish my night out with the Downunder Crew, what’s christmas if you’re not with your online family too.

Pizza and Green Tea

Pizza and Green Tea

 

Kind Regards and Merry Christmas!

Kathleen McKay

Ahhhh no wake up calls this week!

Ahhhh no wake up calls this week!

Is it sad that I would log into my office today and be disappointed to find we have no wake up calls this week? Would you assume that I have no life beyond tapping a few keys at my desktop or laptop? I have spent the last few weeks nearly every day with the most amazing people I know and love from my online community.

No Wake Up Calls? No Problem!

Actually to be honest it is quite the opposite. I have an amazing life, so full and so rich with my family and my daily goings on and it just so happens that I would like to spend one of the most important times of the year with people that have become like family to me too.

I have spent the last few weeks nearly every day with the most amazing people I know and love from my online community. We’re not like any other community I know of. We all have similar dreams and aspirations of making the world a better place by affecting one person at a time.

My Board of Directors

My Board of Directors

Now you could say that everyone else is off doing real world stuff with their real world family and granted they most likely are but I can guarantee there are many of us thinking the same thing about being together and if we could set extra seating at our holiday tables we would invite many of our community members from the SFM/DEA to spend this special time with us. Some of these people I have known online for over two years now. Incredible how time flies.

I rode the highs and I’ve also ridden the lows with some of my friends.

We teach each other and the wider global community that they are capable of achieving anything they wish to be, have or do in this world. We support each others dreams and aspirations and we really thrive to make this world a better place. Not just for our children and for our future generations to come but for ourselves also, right here and right now.

Many of our members that will spend their time travelling arrange to meet other members in real time as we live the laptop lifestyle and travel the globe. Some of us travel across the continents, some of us travel across our countries. Some of us travel across our states. However we travel, you can be sure if we know you through SFM we will be looking you up. Whether it’s for a cup of coffee or tea to spending a week or so together masterminding in some of the worlds top locations.

The picture below shows one of my lovely new friends, Miranda, who is a member in the community to begin with visiting myself and my daughter in Wellington Hospital.

Miranda and I

Miranda and I

For me this has been one of my best years. Growing many new friendships, nurturing them and solidifying many for life!

So as we head into another year I look forward to spending more time with as many people as I can and building formidable friendships that will stand the test of time. And wake up calls will be back before I notice they’re missing!! 28th December 2015 to be exact :)

Kathleen McKay

School Holidays are Here

School Holidays are Here

School holidays are here. Finally I don’t have to stick to the early morning routine of getting school lunches sorted and making sure kids are in their correct uniforms and have packed their lunch boxes. I can sleep in if I want to, well that probably won’t happen but I won’t have to get out of my pj’s early :)

What now becomes the all important family issues is how to fill in the time now there is no school. Kids tend to get bored rather easy so if the weather isn’t fine that limited the kids to indoor activities.

My kids are pretty techy so they like to play on their laptops and xbox or the wii. I have teenagers too so some of them have more active social lives than I do. already one of the teen and a group of friends have gone camping out in the country by a river. Was ok to me until it rained and I thought of all the dangers of camping beside a river. However these boys were really clued up and had moved camped and were also well prepared.

They also had plenty of food and of course they had parents dropping in randomly delivering food and making sure everything was above board and there were no shenanigans going on.

Have to say I was pretty proud of how they conducted themselves. As they had to passed through farm land to get to their little campsite I was really proud that the only things they left behind when it was time to come home was their footprints. They were also rather tired from late nights around the campfire.

Boys Camping

Boys Camping

It made me pine for the days when I used to go camping. As a teen and then with my husband long before we had children. We would take our four wheel drive out into the country, travel over farmland and then park up near the beaches.

We’d hitch a tarpaulin to the rear of the wagon and hitch the other end of the tarp to a fence and we would sleep in the back of the wagon facing the sunrise. Those were the days but that’s the beauty of living in New Zealand. You don’t have to travel too far before you arrive at a beach or a campsite. We are rather lucky.  The weather here is usually pretty good too. Although lately the weather is being a little crazy. Almost like four seasons in one day.

Here’s hoping it improves as we get closer to Christmas.

OMG! 50 and Pregnant?

OMG! 50 and Pregnant?

OMG! 50 and pregnant? Thankfully not!!!  One of the biggest scares I think you can have at 50. I have my lovely friend to thank for that moment last week. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was thinking it couldn’t possibly be and what if my friend was right?

Yayyy Negative!

Yayyy Negative!

You see back in August I gave up smoking cigarettes and I have steadily be gaining weight. Not a big deal I thought. And at my age I’ve been expecting menopause to kick in although I have vowed not to suffer like I have seen other women. I decided I was going to give all the hot flushes and hormone imbalances a big miss because I choose to.

I’ve continued to act like a kid and play like a kid, prank people like I’m a kid…..every ounce of my being is spent much acting like a kid and I love it!! The only thing I noticed was my periods had stopped. Not a biggy as I am feeling great and if this is what menopause is going to be like for me I’m absolutely stoked!!

Young at Heart

Young at Heart

However I have a friend who watches a TV channel called TLC and she has seen some programs where women have gone through an entire pregnancy and not realized they’re pregnant and when we got together for a catch up I happened to mentioned how I haven’t had a period for over three months and we both noticed I’ve gained weight and out of her mouth fell the words, OMG, you’re not pregnant are you? Without missing a beat I said no way…I reckon it’s early menopause or the fact I’ve given up smoking and am eating more….but the words were said and so off we went to a discrete clinic in town.

I was slightly embarrassed as there were a couple of young ladies in there clearly less than half my age and then of course I was thinking what if….what if I was pregnant?? I was calm under the circumstances and figured if I was then so be it, i’ll deal with it like I do with everything else in my life. Ride it out.

Pregnant!

Pregnant!

I wouldn’t be the first 50 year old in the world to get pregnant. And I certainly wasn’t jumping ahead of myself with a load of what ifs. Anyway, I’m thankful to report, I’m just putting on weight because I gave up smoking and decided to replace smoking with food. As for the lack of periods, who knows. To be honest I’m thankful to see the back of those too!

However maybe one is best not to have an opinion on what age is too old to have children because to be honest I feel perfectly mature/wise enough to have children now than when I was younger. I feel I have more energy, I’m better equipped mentally and at the same time I’m still young at heart with more patience.

 

Mature Youthfulness

Mature Youthfulness

 

I also think it would be perfect living until one was 200 plus years old too. But that’s just my opinion.

Feel free to leave your comments and share your thoughts.

 

Kathleen McKay