The Fear of Moving House
Huge changes at the best of times can be immensely daunting, the fear of moving house is definitely up there! Recently we were given 42 days notice to move house. The usual is 90 days unless the landlord states he requires his house for family, hence the 42 days.
Whilst it is initially a shock and then a load of stress, if you can sit quietly and focus for a moment, you can make the shock subside and then put together a logical plan eliminating most of the fear and creating a step by step guide to finding a suitable new home whilst embracing the change with excitement. I totally freaked out at first as I also have to get specialists in to dismantle Brennagh’s bed and reassemble it at the new place and these people need plenty of notice and it helps to have a forwarding address.
Usually when big stuff happens in your life you are on a precipice, and it can go either way, good or bad depending on how you look at things. As a rule most people don’t like change. They see themselves happy and settled as things are. They can’t see the opportunities that await around the corner as they are so gripped with the fear of the unknown. But if you can sit for a moment and think of the impending change as a way towards something bigger and better, you are part way to calming your fears.
Realize the fears are natural to being human and move on because whether you like it or not, the change is coming.
Embracing it makes everything seem so much easier. To feel the feel is to open yourself up to helplessness and hopelessness and deep down none of us are hopeless. Hopelessness is an emotion that we can choose to feel.
You can have moments of hopelessness and you can also pass through them quickly. You must realize that you are captaining your own ship and none of us want to end up on the rocks so you best plot a course that provides a desirable outcome. And like most ships you are carrying a load of passengers that are relying on you to make the best decisions for a safe and smooth trip to arrive at your final destination.
I currently have less than 22 days to find the perfect home. After I sailed into calmer waters I was able to break my journey down. All I have to focus on at this current time is to find the house. The shift itself is not a big deal as we have volunteers to help with that. That is usually the second biggest thing in a shift. Moving the years of stuff. I have however been clearing out the years of clutter in between the viewings of properties. Amazing how much one accumulates with a large family. the years of memories, the years of junk! My answer is to give it all away. We don’t need a lot of stuff! And that’s all it is at the end of the day, STUFF!
I have enjoyed my time at this property. We have had some of the best views here. Views over the township, views over the country. They’ve been my sane places on many a crazy day. I have however been a little disappointed with the interior and now see moving as the perfect opportunity to change all that. The change is almost like a rebirth……I like how that sounds.
Like with all major changes in life there can be a silver lining and if we can grasp that concept before we see the silver lining we’re halfway to a positive change. We’ve all experienced hindsight in our lives and often change has a positive outcome in the end.
So watch this space as I steam forward to more conducive waters.
I’d also like to add at this time that when things are so uncertain for some I am so fortunate to be able to run an online business and work the hours that suit myself, my family life and the roller coaster ride that goes with all of it! I have the freedom of not checking in with a boss, not having to ask for time off to view houses or shift stuff. I really am fortunate and grateful that I really do captain my own ship.